Resolutions, why are they necessary?

Our new year resolution
Our new year resolution

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We make them, we break them, and sometimes we forget about them. They are resolutions, and not relationships. Whether it’s to quit smoking, lose weight or exercise regularly, usually, our resolve is broken due to temptation.

 Resolutions are a part of New Year’s. They go hand-in-hand for many people. How often do you break your resolution? Have you wondered why you give into temptation?

Why do we break resolutions? 

This temptation usually comes foremost, from peer pressure rather than our minds. External factors contribute mainly to temptation. During social occassions, our friends and family cause coercion, by telling us that it’s only just this once, and that’s all the push we need to break it. The more we want to get rid of a temptation, the more vulnerable we are to yielding to it.

“The best way to get rid of temptation, is by yielding to it,” said Colin Firth in the movie, ‘The picture of Dorian Grey’.  This way out, is the easy way out. Nobody wants to try too hard, for anything for that matter. Not to mention, it’s difficult.

Breaking the habit 
Trying to avoid something that you regularly do, or are accustomed to, and like doing is an exigent task. Behavioural  Psychologists emphasize on the concept of unlearning and re-learning, which is a lengthy process. They even talk of desensitization towards the object of temptation. That seems silly, because if you really want to give up a habit, you’ll do it. You don’t need a new year, or a tomorrow.
All you need is the power to fight against yourself. You care about yourself. But just not enough. Until something bad happens to us, we don’t bother about being cautious. And sometimes, even after that incident, we still give into temptation.

Find the root cause

When you live a routine life, you think that a resolution isn’t necessary. If you want to lead a healthier life- style all you have to do is smile, and think, ‘If not today, then someday’, or you could actually find out why you aren’t implementing your resolution.

That actually helps. If you’re lazy, or addicted to a bad habit, no psychiatrist or psychologist can help you. If you actually want execute you plan, then take one day at a time, because you live in the moment, not in the future.

Try to care of yourself, if you want to make a resolution. Take baby steps. Write down what you have to do everyday. If you succeed in little tasks, then you gain more confidence. That will ultimately help you maintain your resolve.

How to overcome temptation
1) In situations where you have to give in to temptation, look at the list you made for that day.
2) Look at it, and write down the new hurdle you have to overcome. That will make you feel better.
3) Even if you give in to temptation, you can try again. Just because you gave in once doesn’t mean that you’ve lost the war.
4) Mind control is key in maintaining resolutions. Do not to lose your fighting spirit. As long as you care about yourself, you won’t lose. You will maintain your resolution, you have a whole year ahead of you.
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